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Hello, and thank you for taking the time out to read this, because this is something rather important to me, and what I am about to say is coming from my heart, and I wish to get this off of my mind, because it has been bottled up inside me for far too long.
Alright First, I’d like to start off by asking this question “What is wrong with relationships”? Or better yet “What is wrong with guys and girls anymore”?
You know, I’ve been contemplating and observing a lot in regards to those questions over the years, and have came across quite a few simple answers, but to explain such things to the average person would be absurd, why?, because if that person is anything like the rest of these people, they will be too wrapped up in todays way’s to understand, such as….the music that’s put out nowaday’s (which influences people easily no doubt, whether concious or subconscious) the stuff thats on TV anymore (which seems to be rather worse than ever in my opinion), just…certain things that are put out in today’s media to influence the human mind in such a way that they grow up in a camoflauged trend….thinking that what they are doing and seeing is okay. So with that being said, there would be no hope in trying to tell that person anything, because the original value of relationships and true love have been lost in the process of them being brainwashed with todays delusions and lies.
Sex, drugs, and money are rediculously emphasized in this era, but it is done so in such a smooth and deceitful way that nobody even realizes it’s happening, or the fact that it’s bad, and whats sad is that if they do, they don’t care anyways, why, either because of pure ignorance, or because their habits are too adjusted to it, them as a person are subconsciously adjusted to today’s ways, and all their actions, thoughts, and words are of instinct basically, because they have been molded from the wrong teachings/influences over time.
Now, after considering all that, and knowing that people’s views on relationships and love and etc are a bit altered in the wrong ways due to the influences of todays media and such, let me just say that I think THESE things are mostly the problem with relationships, or another words the way guys and girls act as a couple, especially younger people such as myself (22 years old) and below. But let’s not forget that it may also have a lot to do with their upbringing also, and what their parents have taught them. For example “That person’s view on right and wrong might not be the same as your views of right and wrong due to different upbringing as a child growing up”, and if that other person so happened to be the opposite sex, and you hooked up with them, there of course would be complications between you two as far as what you two value as a couple is concerned. Now, the thing is nobody KNOWS HOW to make relationship’s work anymore, nobody knows how to make true, loyal commitment anymore, due to the wrong views of values in a couple because of what they know and have been taught whether by parent or through media etc. I have noticed overtime that most of these people nowadays breakup very quickly, there are very strong insecurities, bonds never build correctly due to the wrong intentions between the two on the first day or so, let alone a week, and to add on to that they could even be such ways due to being broken over and over by people running in and out of their life, causing them to retaliate in the same manner with the next person they get with, and then from that point it becomes like a pattern and their adjusted to it, and then eventually they end up running into Mr.Right or Miss Right and thats when things start to get ugly, because by that time they don’t even realize that they have finally ran into somebody good for once and not another piece of trash .
Now, whats sad is, because that person has gone through so much, and has been mentally conditioned in such a way that they automatically think everyone is trash, and there is no such thing as Mr.Right or Miss Right to them, they will actually treat Mr.Right or Miss.Right like everybody else. How do they do this you ask? Because if that Mr.Right or Miss.Right is being good to them, they won’t know how to handle it, why, because they are not used to a good man or good woman. They lack the knowledge of knowing how to give that same treatment and value back, due to their miserable past relationship experiences, and instead retaliate back by being insecure, play head games, or perhaps purposely look for a reason to nit and pick with that person because they honest to God do not know how to act when they have something good in their hands, and their so used to old habits from old relationships, and eventually, it ends up falling apart unfortunately. How do I know this? Because I’ve witnessed it many times, plus I have experienced this my own self with past relationships. Now, thats not necessarily always true, but for the most part from what I’ve learned, it most definitely is in my opinion.
Sadly, I’m one of the good guys, which means I always seem to have the short end of the stick when it comes to relationships because I am too trusting, too honest, too blunt with how I feel, too quick to convey too many secrets and values, and I usually end up doing it with the wrong females, who either seem to take advantage of this, or they use me to fill that empty gap while they have their space or moments of just being a woman in general. They either #1 Screw me over by breaking up with me because their heart was actually on another man or their ex, basically saying I was just something to fill in that lonely gap they had, or #2 They end up breaking up with me because they feel I am too good of a guy, their not used to it, and they find it rather hard to accept it as the truth, and would (as mentioned in the example above) retaliate in the same manner as they acted with their ex’s, because their so mentally conditioned to the bullcrap they went through from past relationships. Or #3 they are emotionally unstable, they have no solidity in their character or decisions on what they want (even though they think they do) and end up changing their mind about me and then I end up being hurt all because their indecisive with what they want, and when you deal with a girl like that who is unstable,(guys please take my advice) there is absolutely no point of trying to say anything or change anything, because all they are going to do is sit there and justify themselves, they’ll never want to be in the wrong, but of course we all know that’s any woman.
*Guy’s who are reading this, be careful how you carry yourself around (SOME) women, they can be very manipulative in ways you would never expect. Don’t set yourself up for failure, please stay alert. Some may see your soft spots and use it against you, Or if they know you too well and you happen to make them mad, brace yourselves. They “will” do things to get a reaction out of you, best thing to do is be cool and collected regardless of what she throws at you or tries. If a woman see’s that you’re not being moved by her, in most cases it will drive her up the wall, she’ll eventually cut out the crap, and she’ll come to you, the situation will switch up real quick because she see’s you’re not participating in the headgames. Let her play herself a fool. You will be suprised at how much trouble you avoid by simply ignoring her, or taking a step back*
Speaking on the matter, I know there are plenty of women who may blindly say “Well the reason why we justify ourselves with men is because men are stupid”. Okay, yes I agree, men can be most certainly stupid, but you must also come to an understanding that men are also human just like you are, and with that being said, as a human they have flaws, just like YOU do. Going onto a subject with women having flaws as well as men, I can sit here and honestly say that one of the reasons why most men that I know of act like jerks towards women is usually because they get sick of them for the most part, which would lead a woman to wonder why the man even chose to be with them in the first place, but the thing is, there’s a lot of complications internally within the two that built up overtime in regards to each other, and as far as the man getting sick of the woman, reasons would be, she may be very emotional (And it’s a well known fact that most, if not, all women act off of emotion for the most part), which can work a mans nerves if those emotions are blown a bit out of proportion, and her being emotional can also lead to stupid decisions and actions such as cheating on him, saying stupid things she doesn’t truly mean, not being sure if she really wants him, testing him (form of manipulation as stated above), use his words against him for whatever reason (so guys PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE be careful what you say to a woman, don’t make promises you can’t keep), all kinds of things like that and etc. And don’t forget there’s also the mind games women tend to be good at as well (*Manipulation* as stated above once again), that is, when the man does something that somehow crosses the woman, whether it be a big deal or not, she will be SPITEFUL, a big highlight on most women, not all. They seem to have a rather horrible habit of doing vengeful things, whether it be towards a man or a woman. And that too can cause a man to retaliate in an ignorant manner.
*Guys and Girls, Men and Women PLEASE take a moment to think about the person you are with, if that guy or girl isn’t truly what you want, save yourself trouble in the future and take a step back. Some reasons why relationships don’t work is because from the very beginning the guy wasn’t truly attracted to her, or vice versa she wasn’t attracted to him, and there could be many of reasons why. Since most guys are visual beings, I will say this “If she doesn’t suit your taste in appearance then don’t try to make it work, if your heart is not into her because of her looks then turn around and look elsewhere and don’t waste her time, and don’t waste yours. The last thing you want to do is hurt her because you weren’t truly attracted to her. Same for girls, don’t make the investment if you are not truly into him, you don’t want to hurt him… do you? Or perhaps you just like leading people on? You like the chase maybe? You like the thrill of being in love?? Well if thats the case, prepare to be alone for a long time, because nobody wants someone who is shallow. As you get older, you’ll begin to mature, you’ll want to settle down and have kids, you’ll want to get serious, and guess what….. nobody is going to want you, you gave yourself a bad reputation. You know what sucks even more girls? Getting older and seeing that guy who used to like you with a brand new woman (who loves him for who he is and what he’s “become”) nice big house, financially established, with kids, married, a nice vehicle, etc (Take note this is the same guy who used to live in grandma’s basement, no car, no money, no job). Your going to be real sorry, I assure you this, so please…. if some of you are like this, or maybe even a little bit shallow in this sense, do yourself the favor and make the change, start changing up the way you look at guys, look at their heart, look at what they are “trying” to do and not what they are currently doing or being in the present. It may be difficult, but it is worth the effort. Start expanding your mind, perspective, and look more into a guy and where or how he’s trying to build his “future” foundation before making judgements and looking down upon him. If not, then continue to choose the pinheads out there, driving around in their crappy suited up Honda cars, half beat sub-woofer, with a reputation of being a manwhore larger than a Christmas list for Santa*
But then theres also men who are just jerks just to be jerks because they like the power they have over the woman their with, and have a rather dominant, or perhaps more barbaric mentality in a sense. And then theres men who are jerks due to friends who give them wrong motives, or what they hang around, or wrong influences and teachings in general (which this goes back to what I’ve discussed above) and causes them to be a butthole for the girl they are with. Now, I ALWAYS see women complain about how they’re tired of their man treating them like crap, and they never shut up about it, so my words of wisdom to the women who do this are, “If you are sick of the man your with, get rid of him, don’t complain about it, don’t stress it, just drop him, don’t sit there and whine, pout, and broadcast to the whole world about your man, because if he is truly that bad, then why are you with him”?? And the answer is always “Because I love him”. OKAY then, so now that you have confirmed this to me, then what the heck are you complaining for?? It doesn’t make any bit of sense. You can’t stand your man and you hate his guts, and you can easily solve the problem by getting rid of him, but yet you don’t, you still tolerate him, you love him, you keep going back to his sorry butt, so shut up and stop complaining because you look silly, and your making others think negatively of you because of your illogical and irrational actions in regards to yourself and your man. And then of course you also must consider that when a person is in a relationship with someone, they become tied to them and emotionally invested in that person, and with that said, why would you complain about him if you are not going to let go due to the bond you have with him emotionally, and then I thought, well maybe she honestly does want to let go but can’t, but even still, why would you sit there and complain and broadcast your business about it, because that is stupid and solves nothing at all. And no, it’s not exactly venting to me either, but rather just plain stupidity and immaturity. Venting is an escape or release from confinement, and its acceptable when it’s to a close friend or two, keeping it confidential, and trying to be strong about the situation. Venting is NOT sitting there being immature, broadcasting your business and twisting truths on a social networking site when your not even really going to solve the problem, and instead your doing it just to be a wench, your acting out of spite. Give me a break.
Okay girls, so you want a good man? Well for a start, the first thing you want to do is look at how the man manages his money. Believe it or not, the way a guy handles his financial issues may say a lot about his character. If he’s wreckless with his money, then he more than likely has a wreckless character. This is not *always* true, but it is definitely something to pay attention to. I encourage you to take note of this. Same for guys as well, please pay attention to how a woman handles herself. And girls, keep an eye on how he treats his momma, if he’s treating her like doo doo then prepare yourselves, what makes you think he’s going to treat you any better than his own mother?
Now, to inform you ahead of time, NO I am not a sexist if I appear to be that way, I am not against women at all, I am on both sides… but I am just trying to make some points here, and clarify the fact that women can be just as dumb and horrible, if not, worse than men at times. SO LADIES, please stop pointing the finger at guys, playing the victim card gets old real fast.
Another thing I don’t understand is people (younger teens at the age of 12 to 17 or even older couples) saying I love you on day one, like c’mon, really now? Okay lesson #1, in order to honestly love somebody, you first have to invest time into that person to understand them and build a bond, a close friendship, learn each other first, and let it develop properly, take your time (which I won’t lie, this is something I’m still learning how to do) don’t rush into things. You must have patience, it is a great virtue to have, and it can be applied to many things in your life. But anymore I see people hopping in and out of relationships like it’s nothing, nobody has morals and standards anymore, and everybody has seem to forgotten the true values of a relationship and how to go about them properly. On top of that, there are people who tend to have sex within the first week or so, and thats stupid, because if your trying to have a serious relationship, and you want it to last, you shouldn’t be having sex early because that’s taking away your sense of pride and value of that person, and there’s nothing to really look forward to in the long run in that sense as far as something you would treasure to be sacred of that person. Subconciously you lose respect for that person, and it’s not exactly the same. Now of course I’m not saying it’s always like this, because not everybody’s mind operates the same, or operate in the same mannerism’s, but for most cases it seems to be this way.
One more thing, BE LOYAL AND FAITHFUL TO ONE ANOTHER!!!! That is a huge problem with people -__-
Well, I am running out of things to say unfortunately, but I did get a lot off of my chest, any comments or objections on my views are welcome, debates are expected LOL. But if not, then thats good for my behalf. Also, for those of you who may have taken any offense to what I have said throughout my rediculously long paragraphs, I apologize, and wish to inform you that this is not in regards to any of you who are reading this, but rather just something I wanted to share with people in general. I want the world to see what Che’Z see’s haha.
Che’Z Enrique Collins -aka- The Enigma TNG
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I had no intentions on creating this, however, I am glad I did. For an entire year I told myself I would eventually get to the theme “Rise” also, but I need a decent female singer to make the acapella for me. Quite a number of my fans want me to do it. I do have an old remix of “Inner Universe” from 2011 uploaded if any of you want to hear it. I have always liked Ghost in the Shell ever since I was a teen (15 I believe). I remember when it used to come on Adult Swim at 5:00 - 5:30am here where I live (east coast). I would literally stay up just to see that amazing intro and theme, at the time it was “Stand Alone Complex” that was airing. But anyways I hope you all enjoy :)
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